Experience
“Show me the path where I should walk O’Lord, point out the right road for me to follow. Lead me by your truth and teach me, for you are the God who saves me. All day long I put my hope in you.” Psalm 25:4-5
Do you take the time to look out your window? and what do you often see? Imagine its beauty that God has given us, another day of richness in our lives to see. Do you sometimes question where you are in your life today? Where you are going? To be honest, I never knew where I was going in my life while I was living in Los Angeles,Ca. However, I can tell you I lived in destitute; trying to be a prize fighter in order to get out of the mess I was in.
During those times of experiencing pain, confusion and stressed out in the big city. I was living in buildings during the 1992 Rodney King riot which was eighteen years ago remembering the looting, arson and the smell of violence and destruction in the air that was getting nearby the place of business that I was living and training in as a martial artist. I was sleeping on floors during the 1994 OJ Simpson chase watching the helicopters go by over head in search of their suspect, hearing of the sirens. “you guys remember that?” I was not far away from the Interstate 405 in Los Angeles, Calif. All we could do is watch everything on television.
To let you know, I’ve struggled through rejection and I know we all have been through it. In 1995 this was the year I crossed trained from martial arts to boxing, I’ve lived in my vehicle until it was towed away, I’ve tried to understand my life’s situation and couldn’t. To actually appreciate life, we’ve got to appreciate death and we all know that death and destruction exist in this world. I’ve worked as a mortician aid “undertaker” placing toe tags and zipping up body bags each day and being on call twenty-four hours a day takes alot out of you. I’ve seen death in many fashion and creep along in gang territory. As a mortician we are sometimes struck with positive and negative spirit, knowing the body does not move, it’s without pulse of life. Whatever that person was he or she was, is no longer there. They are not their bodies when they pass on. So, do we know what life is yet? Do we understand life? Today I can say I am bless to be alive and life gave me good and bad experiences and some I am ashamed of, but thats okay! The more I love myself, the more I love others.
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Traumatic Brain Injury and the Bully
Hi, and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am glad to see you decided to stop by and visit with me. As a traumatic brain injury survivor I struggle with a sense of inadequacy at times. At times I listen to messages that seem to challenge me for not being more than I am today. I am encouraged to be more, but for some reason I simply do not believe I can be more. Innuendos of shame in these messages trigger the notion that I am not enough, I don’t do enough and that I am unlovable. Unconsciously shame seeks to discredit my desire to succeed in life through minimizing my best efforts. Please read my post, Whose Shame are you Carrying?
Shame seeks to keep me distracted by a faulty notion so that I will not achieve my creative potential.
As a person with an invisible disability, I allowed the message of shame to bully me for many years. The shame bully controlled and manipulated my every move. Shame told me that my good was never good enough. Although I attempted to appease the bully, I seldom believed that my good was ever good enough. Consequently my self-esteem, self-worth and self-image were constantly undermined. In my struggle to prevent the bully from attacking my value as a person, I expended huge amounts of emotional, physical and spiritual resources.
Through my process of healing from the effects of shame I found that the voice of perfectionism – your good is never good enough — to be a cruel taskmaster. My ability to heal and grow emotionally, spiritually and physically was stymied by the demands of unrealistic expectations. Over time I recognized that my internal energy was being diverted away from developing my creative capacity in order to avoid being attacked by the bully. Through recognizing how shame was draining my life I was motivated to look for solutions. These solutions enabled me to slowly heal on a spiritual, emotional and physical level.
In my experience, I had to begin healing from the affects of shame before I could hope to live life on life’s terms. As I mentioned above, I still am susceptible to the message that shame wants to exploit. The good news is that I no longer need to be held hostage by the bully. I no longer need to internalize the lie that I am not enough. Through accepting that my circumstances are not meant to keep me down, I am encouraged to look for solutions. Although shame may want to bully me I no longer need to pay attention to its taunts. I am released from the grasp of the bully through learning to be empowered through my circumstances, experiences and opportunities.
Note:
Guilt is different than shame. If you made a mistake you can make an amends and thus resolve guilt. Shame on the other hand is a being wound which leads the person to believe that they just don’t make mistakes, but that they are a mistake. The tendency to over achieve and develop a sense of grandiosity or to under achieve and develop a sense of helplessness is often a response observed in people who have been bullied by shame. Being bullied by shame can lead to a learned helplessness, which in turn undermines the individual’s potential to pursue their destiny.
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Surviving a major TBI, coma, and relearning life ALL OVER!
Living our lives, well we REALLY DON’T KNOW what’s on the other side… People might think, as I did, but the other side could mean changing your life forever….. What do I mean by this? Picture yourself waking up, going to work, during that time you have a small accident (and not thinking much of it), continue working, being finished you go home, now its evening and friends are calling you to go out, your mind is not set on going out because of you having a headache, going to sleep, and so on for three and a half more days until you DON’T WAKE UP….
I just turned 21 years old and thinking that nothing was going to stop me! I was now a real adult…and had the I.D. to prove it. But, as soon as I turned 21 a few days later, my life changed forever. I experienced a major blood clot in my head, that was slowly entering into my brain from that small accident. The reason for the accident was because I fell ONLY about four feet and hit the ground (dirt and grass). Now, me being into sports, THERE WAS NO WAY I WAS THINKING THAT THIS WAS GOING TO HAPPEN…
The last few hours at home sleeping, I fell into a coma. I experienced a Subdural Hematoma. I was rushed to the hospital and after two brain surgery’s (the 2nd one was because my brain started to swell) I continued to lay in a coma. Thanking God, after two and a half weeks I was able to come out of the coma, BUT HAD TO RELEARN EVERYTHING OVER AGAIN…
After losing my job when I was 38 yrs old because of the school closing, I decided to finish what I started a few years earlier! I once wrote this amazing outline of a book about my life. After finding it, I simply added more words and pictures. The book is called, “MY MIRACLE.” It is about my whole life, up to this point. It talks about roads we take, decisions we make, how you communicate with a loved one going through this change, friends, family, relationships, college, work, God, and SO MUCH MORE.
The book “My Miracle” can be seen on http://SharingMiracles.net. I built this website when my book became live, so people all over the world could join in on discussions about life experiences or miracles. SharingMiracles.net is a very cool website because it talks about life and the music is awesome… Please, if you get a chance check it out.
It also can be seen on other websites. I have heard from people all over the world about their lives and how much the book has helped them. They are going or have been through some major changes in their lives that involved and came from accidents. “My Miracle” has given HOPE, UNDERSTANDING, and ALLOWED THEM TO SEE THROUGH MY EYES…
I would LOVE to hear from you either on this post or my website. Please, let me know whats on your mind… Tell me about your life or a loved one going through or has been through a head injury or accident! WE ALL ARE HERE TO HELP EACH OTHER. I’ve been through it ALL. TALK TO YA SOON.
Sincerely, Rodney
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Keep Your Brain Alive – 83 Neurobic Exercises to help prevent memory loss and increase mental fitness
Neurobics? What’s that? Never heard of it before now. Neurobics is an exercise program to help you maintain a continuing level of mental Fitness, strength, and flexibility as you get older. This program calls for “presenting the brain with non-routine or unexpected experiences using various combinations of your physical senses – vision, smell, taste, touch, and hearing – as well as your emotional ‘sense’.” In other words, Neurobics activates different areas of the brain and makes the brain more agile and flexible, so that it will be ready to take on any mental challenge.
Since Neurobics is based on how the brain works, the exercises take information from the five senses to enhance the brain’s natural association between them. For example, we’ve all said, “It’s nice to put a name with a face,” when we’ve met someone for the first time with whom we’ve talked on the phone. This emphasizes two of our senses identifying a person: vision and hearing. To add touch and smell to associating a person’s name with a visual, remember how his hand felt when you shook it, or how he/she smelled if they were wearing cologne/perfume. Since you are now using other ways to remember information (names) and strengthening the number of ways to remember (sight, touch, smell, hearing), the better chances of remembering names, solving a problem, or meeting a challenge are increased because your brain has more pathways available to retrieve the information in the future. Make sense?
Next time, I’ll talk about routines and how they aren’t as good as we thought.
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Neurobics – Associations and How Our Brain Learns
Associations are how we represent people, places, things, events, etc. when our brain decides to store that information for later. As I mentioned in a previous article on Neurobics, many of us enjoy putting a name with a face and voice that we may hear on the other end of the phone. This emphasizes two of our senses in identifying a person: vision and hearing. The brain takes these two senses (or more if you shake the person’s hand – touch) and links them to form the association. Pavlov’s dog is a perfect example of ringing a bell being associated with being ready to eat food.
Once associations are formed in your brain, they take up residence in your long-term memory. Because each memory could be represented in different areas of your brain, the more associations, or networks, the more your brain is sheltered in losing the memory’s representation. Now, there is hope for those folks who are in their 40’s and 50’s. The brain is near or at its peak performance at this age. Building your associations using strategies of different senses helps protect us from losing our “processing power” later in life. As the book, “Keep Your Brain Alive” states, the “larger your ‘safety net’, the better your chances of solving a problem or meeting a challenge are” because you simply have more connections available to reach a solution.
In the next article, I’ll talk about how routines can be “brain-deadening”.
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Mind of the Tiger Lady
“If the human brain were so simple that we could understand it, we would be so simple that we couldn’t.” _Emerson M. Pugh
Hey! I just want to thank you for dropping by. Lately, I have had several guest bloggers share their awesome articles and stories on traumatic brain injuries.
My interest in sharing with you my story is to give you a mental picture how a person with a traumatic brain injury can be misunderstood or not give a shit about. I’m going to be real here, because I am a “traumatic brain survivor,” with an invisible disability.
Once my boxing career ended, I knew one day I would be on my own as a self advocacy and practicing advocacy skills will increase my chance of getting what I want by avoiding problems in public and private settings – “EMPOWERMENT.”
Please do not hesitate to ask any questions, comments, looking forward to hearing from you.
I’d also like to thank my guest bloggers Dr Arlene Taylor, PhD for sharing her articles on brain plasticity; she has a website at www.arlenetaylor.org you need to check her site out to learn more about your brain. I’d also like to thank Darcy Keith for sharing her article that also has a website at darcy@darcykeith.com a TBI survivor. Thank you Darcy!
Thank you to Craig Philips MRC, BA for his article, he also has a website secondchancetolive and thank you to Rodney Barnes who has a website and book http://SharingMiracles.net . Make sure you get the book “My Miracle.” I have to say, it’s a good book, a book I recommend to anyone, check it out!
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Brain Region Volume and Criminality?
This article was written by Dr Arlene Taylor PhD, known to be one of the world’s leading speakers on brain function, is also sometimes referred to as the brain guru.
Studies by Adrian Raine, University of Pennsylvania, suggest a connection between reduced amygdala function at age three and possible later criminal activity. As an aside:
Adult psychopaths appear to have an 18% reduction of the volume of the amygdala compared with non-psychopaths.
The orbital frontal cortex tends to be associated with being antisocial when its volume is smaller; as a group, men have a smaller orbital frontal cortex than women, which may help explain why men as a whole tend to commit more crimes than women.
(http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2011/02/21/kids-brains-may-hold-clues-to-future-criminals/?hpt=c2/)
Posted by Arlene R. Taylor ph D. www.arlenetaylor.org
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Step by Step
Did you know traumatic brain injuries are different and each of us recovers at a different pace – some of us sooner, some of us later?
The mind of the Tiger Lady is back today August 28, 2011…..
I love being athletic, I have always been active in my life. Now that I’ve retired from professional boxing years ago, I realize now how important it is to keep up with your health. So, it’s time to get off my lazy medicated ass and do something about self.
I don’t know about you, but I’m talking about looking healthy at 47 years old, be strong and feel good about myself. There’s nothing better than getting up and preparing your mind and body for a great start of fuel and head out the door for the gym and work that body!
Motivation is the most important part to keep you going and I do know fitness and staying in shape is a “lifestyle.” I am so motivated that it is a MUST to get a camera and record results of transformation.
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Provocative
“Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” Prov.4:23
From the Mind of the Tiger Lady ….Sept 01, 2011
Do you ever question or challenge yourself to go forward to reorganize? – Yep! We’ve been there I’m sure.
If only it didn’t take so much work to be healthy and grounded after struggling through life, sickness, or from brain injuries to major depression. We go through a lot in this world! Don’t you think?
It is time to change our lives and change the way we think today. As for a friendly reminder I am who and where I am today for a reason, having that ability to create support for myself in my life.
I am just now learning to begin life mentally and physically, becoming aware of my strengths, because I now have a sense of hope. It’s true we can see new possibilities for ourselves and our daily living.
We must challenge the “self defeating” knowing that we are in charge of our lives and can make a difference by new understandings and taking positive steps for the better.
We are nothing, that it is God within who does the work.
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Structure
Mind of the Tiger Lady is back! Can you believe it’s already Friday Sept 30, 2011? I realize you have to be willing and committed in life and slow down, maybe take a step backward and pause for a second and see that this world is moving so fast!
We’ve been taught to try hard in life and not give up. “Keep trying – it will work out!” Must we slow down or be mesmerized of the fast pace that we carry and follow each day twenty – four seven. What is this that we miss?
No one is always right in life and we do develop the ability to be forgiving and understanding, most importantly to love each other for whom they are and where they are in their lives. This is the time to maintain dignity and respect for self and others, a time to build structure. What do you think?
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Mentally
“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips.” –Proverbs 4:23-24 (NIV)
The mind of the Tiger Lady is back! It is Friday morning January 27, 2012. Good morning to you! I am updating “Mentally.” You mentally learn respect, determination, patience and confidence. You physically learn speed, power, coordination and control. As a former student of Chung Su
Nim “Iron” Kim, the mental and physical discipline is still with me today, nothing is lost, so I do appreciate in what I have accomplish.
I will share with you that mental development is vital in learning to control your knowledge. Because anybody can kick, anybody can punch; that’s easy to do! Using concentration and the willingness to challenge and better you, sometimes you are more likely to strike out or lose patience when angry than when you are calm and self – assured.
Maybe you want entertainment and no time for responsibilities of disciplines, or you have to make use of assets, strengths and resources; you have to know you are in charge of your life and can make different choices for positive steps. You know what I am saying?
Only through diversity of opinion is there, in the existing state of human intellect, a chance of fair play to all sides of the truth. Perhaps you recognized the necessity to the mental well – being of mankind of freedom of opinion, and freedom of the expression reclaiming femininity of opinion.
The process of change can be tough, so many options in life and you got to change the way you think. It’s time for “self – trust” there is no time for self – pity. It’s important to remain honest with yourself and choose a new behavior pattern to improve your performance.
Soaring high with the Tiger Lady 2012!
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Accept Help With Grace
Our lord is not a vengeful god. He doesn’t punish us for things we did by giving us trials and disabilities. He is there for us and will send help if we ask and if we believe. A strong woman gives her cares to the lord. He does not give us more than we can handle.
If you have a disability that people can’t see, as I do, remember to ask for help when you need it. If people can’t see our disabilities they may not know we need help. You may think they should know and offer help without being asked but that can be a false assumption. Too often we think being strong means we should suffer silently or struggle with our disability when a truly strong and wise woman knows when to ask for help. There is no dishonor or shame in asking for help when you truly need it. Pride is a curse.
Help can come in so many ways. It can be somebody to talk to, someone to help us understand a problem, someone to transport us somewhere or even someone to give us something to eat. I know that sometimes the best help is someone who can make me laugh, someone who gives me their time and attention. People will care; do care if we let them into our lives.
Everyone has limitations, of the mind of the spirit, of the flesh. And everyone has strengths. Time can change your limitations and strengths. Yes you should still strive to help yourself, to push yourself to do better, to train the body and the mind. But the truly wise woman understands what limits and strengths her body has at any moment in time and isn’t afraid of exposing them.
And when you get help accept it graciously. For some of us who have always been strong, it’s hard to accept help. Most people feel good when they do something to help so do not feel as if you are a burden. It can take time to learn it’s alright to accept help. I know that I struggle still when people help me; I have to resist the sin of pride and accept that God is sending me his grace.
Because the act of helping someone feels good, don’t hesitate to offer your help when it’s needed too. Yes, all of us can help, even if we need help sometimes ourselves. The strongest still need help from the weakest at times.
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Subconscious
The mind of the Tiger Lady is back! It is Friday morning January 27, 2012, updating “subconscious.”
Believing you can make different choices based on new understandings, new possibilities for taking positive steps to change your life for the better.
You know what? Champions are made! Once programmed in, it’s there for good. You tell yourself you are good, you tell yourself you are bad. Good or bad is your choice today. It is self – awareness and of course you have to put in the effort. How far can you go? I almost forgot to tell you, that you can be disciplined, self- confidence, and why not let God guide your life?
AFFIRMATION AND THE BRAIN: the subconscious is highly receptive to simple, positive statements. Mental states are particularly susceptible to affirmation. (Stine, Jean Marie. Double your brain power. NJ: Prentice Hall, 1997, p50)
Go ahead and challenge the self defeating cognition and make use of the resources and strengths just to be on top again. You must begin to feel that you can create a new life for yourself and not remain the victim of circumstances.
You can then appreciate that you did develop yourself mentally and physically to use full concentration to specific goals and to single – mindly continue until you accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to.
It is your desire to grow, make a place for yourself and continue to learn new skills and see a sign of maturity. I believe its okay to feel awesome! No matter who you are, you must take care of yourself.
For the pain and all the effects of a neglected mind and body recognizes no amount of wealth, position or age. You have to earn for yourself your mental and physical health. Soaring high with the Tiger Lady 2012!
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In position
In Position
“The bows of the warriors are broken, but those who stumbled are armed with strength.” 1 Samuel 2:4
The mind of the Tiger Lady is back! It is Thursday night January 26, 2012 and updating “In position.”
Do you think you are in control and in position of “patience?” Better yet, can you wait and not be tired of waiting? Let me share my walk with you, always in a “fighting mode” fight to do what’s right in my life! I’ve become adaptable and had to do some bobbing and weaving along the way to come out clean and be in position.
So, tell me this; why should you and I or anyone else be in position of drunkenness or uncleanliness or just incapable of conduct in society. Is this the life of perception? Maybe it’s good to be in position of pleasure and let the pain go instead.
Destruction and defectiveness destroys the position of strength and power that you and I created. Oh, almost forgot; you need no policies, nor skill in deception. Truth is very powerful! It can make you victorious in position of strength. Are you skeptical in what I am saying here?
Okay! Okay! There is a real ethical problem in society today, rather you agree or disagree with me. Be in position of obedience and discipline! It’s best to take care of yourself, enjoy the journey because everything is subject to change. Soaring high with the Tiger Lady 2012!
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Attitude
Attitude
“He must not pick out the good from the bad or make any substitution. If he does make a substitution, both the animal and its substitute become holy and cannot be redeemed.” Leviticus 27:33
Mind of the Tiger Lady is back! It is Thursday January 26, 2012 and updating “Attitude.” I have an attitude today! Do you have an attitude? Let’s see; there is the good, the bad, and the ugly, very much the unknown situations arise in every human being’s life. Do you agree? I am guessing you’ve been down before and ready to come back up to meet life’s new challenges. Whatever that might be?
Are you and I sabotaging the plans and goals that are set this New Year 2012? Look, this new month of January 2012 is ending! Have you given yourself a basic attitude adjustment to at least cooperate with yourself? Maybe it’s time for a strategy for a more desirable self. You know what I am saying? You are worthy! There is no time to judge yourself or others.
You and I know that harsh words and opinions in society are painful and you stand in defense, such an attitude in deed, owning up to the truth about the system, existing condition with families and neighborhoods, political reasons and it goes on.
You feel you are being mistreated, even viciously! Perhaps being criticize of your own ideas, so you hurt, feel angry, most of all embarrassed. To tell you what I know for sure, it is not good to offend human beings. Even though, we refuse to cooperate, always in a cold silence! What the hell!?
Can you handle the pressure that you put yourself in? Maybe it’s time to take your first step with a deadline, reaching new levels of strength and work with the “unwanted” self for awhile and be real with that true attitude, that’s what you need to do. Let’s do this and have a strong attitude about it.
Soaring high with the Tiger Lady 2012!
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True -Right – Correct
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me – put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” _ Philippians 4:8-9(NIV)
Mind of the Tiger Lady is back! I’ve decided to update a strong content that means a lot to me and possible to you that is maybe “old school” like me. Actually it’s “True, Right and correct.” You know what I might be talking about here? Obedience! Discipline!
I first learned true discipline and obedience from my great grandmother in the home and you know and I know growing up in a strict home back then, we had to comply with the house rules and obey your adults. “Show your manners!”
The martial arts discipline was a way of living, I wanted to be more of a “human being” and “not” just a “person.” You know what I am saying here? As a human I believe that you can forget self and serve others in love. I tell you I’ve been wrong before and knocked down a few times. You made many wrong choices in your life; everything is subject to change right? Look at us! Look at society today! Good or bad is our choice. You are more likely to strike out or lose patience when angry or afraid than when you are calm and self-assured.
- True – Right – correct
Breaking old thought patterns takes a commitment and discipline, everything changes!
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Self
The mind of the Tiger Lady is back and it is Saturday night January 21, 2012 updating “Self.”
As I learn to give up control and in the beginning to accept change by trusting myself and accepting others as they are, I now see what I can do. I tell you I don’t need to depend on anyone! But I do know the Lord is merciful and gracious, he fills my life with good things. I am beginning to understand that my attitude can change my life, I decide what matters to me! Do you feel right with you?
You can actually see your confidence in your life and your future increases, knowing that you are working in your own way. You have nothing to fear, do you? Let me share with you; as I begin to feel better about myself, little by little I am now exposing myself to everyone and to new surroundings, new friends. So, you will need to love you and accept you and decide how you feel about YOU! Something to strive for this year.
This new development of a stronger self of “self – acceptance” allows you to experience a much more comfortable life, by seeing your strengths as well as your limitations, becoming more willing to take risk. What do you think? It is an attempt to face life’s challenges so you can survive.
Maybe, it’s time to be more aware of where you are going in your life, if you sincerely want to change. The only thing you have to remember; you are nothing, that it is God or your Higher Being within who does the work.
“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.” – Anthony Robins
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To Know
To Know
Dear Readers,
This is the Tiger Lady here and it is Sunday January 15, 2012. You have my whole hearted thanks for the strong warmth interest in my website/blog post the past two years I believe I’ve had it up.
I am very pleased that the enjoyment I derived from writing them was really contagion. I tell you, nothing quite equals the excitement one experiences when learning how to write, blog and putting words together especially when someone like me has a brain injury; what they call “Dementia Pugilistic” or “Punch Drunk.” However I do walk around with an “invisible disability,” no one would ever understand.
So, I realize changing your attitude can change your life in every way, and with the right attitude you can change your life. So, I do my best and you can too. I believe you and I equal the same delight of creating and the pursuit of fulfillment if anyone is reading it.
Of course, this is my fulfillment; I usually get a question like: “Is this a paid theme?” No.
I started blogging when I took control of my life, actually saving me from the wreckage that usually destroys you. You know what I am saying?
God help me, I feel it’s my fault! O God I need to understand. Have you ever been in a situation where you blamed yourself?
I really hope you enjoy this website. It’s one of my personal favorites and still learning. Just sharing my love, strength, hope, and experience to you. In true character, mind and body,
Tiger Lady USA2012
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Women’s Strength
Women's Strength
The mind of the Tiger Lady is back! It is Saturday night January 14, 2012 and I have nothing better to do but to update “Women’s Strength.”
Has today been a great day for you, new beginnings, new goals and New Year’s resolutions? Staying with the plans?
As women in position of strength you find yourself neglected, frustrated, and even tired! You lose track of your personal goals, plans, dreams and you don’t even cry out for help until it’s too late.
I’ve been there. Where I’ve lost track of everything! You sometimes become aware of your strength and there are some of us forget we torture and imprison ourselves that we destroy and drive ourselves into deep depression, such a life we live. A feeling of powerlessness and afraid, somehow you know what you can do by acting as if you are strong, you will be surprise of moving forward with power! Having that courage to see yourself change into a strong wise woman filled with strength and confidence.
When you are expressing your emotions in an outburst and it relieves this inner tension in you and yet it leaves you feeling so exhausted, it’s a time to think that your emotions should not take control of you. All I know today that God is so GREAT! Nobody knows you well as God does. You are a worthwhile and capable woman! It is the time to trust yourself and admire your inner beauty. Soaring high with the Tiger Lady 2012!
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Womanish so strong
Womanish so strong
This is the mind of the Tiger Lady and it is the 14th day of January 2012, Saturday morning. I’d like to share a moment with you, okay check it out!
“Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things, whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me – put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” Philippians 4:8-9
A woman is of worth, you are capable to stand up for yourself! I know. You can strive and raise above all circumstances and differences of this world and your community. I know. To be a woman of strength you go to any extent to achieve victory to form your personal identities through your life experiences. You have a story to tell. I know.
To be a woman of strength, there will be those whom will question you about your abilities as a woman. The best thing to do is choose to resist the discouragement and begin to control your own being. Do you understand? It is be aware and allow yourself to change, accomplish everything you want to do.
You know and I know women have been hurt. For many years feminine have survived, look at our mothers; they too have survived some harsh violent winds before you were even born. I am not talking about the battle of the sexes here; it’s about true respect, dignity. Do you feel you need to work on self – affirmation? You know to show your differences from men than challenging them in a “boxing ring?”
I just had to throw that one in there. Are you ashamed of your “yang” side? You are beautiful and yet so competitive; surrendering is unthinkable to you, stand up for yourself! We can make a difference in this world. Do you agree with me? Let me say this; it does take courage to change old thought patterns in order to become whom you want to be. Come on Ladies, you are wise and capable, you are your own authority about what is right for you. Soaring high with the Tiger Lady 2012!
“God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Courage to change the things I can wisdom to know the difference.”
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The Path of Addiction to Recovery
So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall.” 1 Cor. 10:12
Are you making excuses already? Making the ultimate poor choices this New Year 2012? It’s only the new beginning. Wait one second! It’s Friday the 13th, January 2012 and this is the “Mind of the Tiger Lady” sitting here at the computer of course.
I’d like to share a few moments with you, I’m sure you wouldn’t mind. I am the “Tiger Lady” an alcoholic/addict. I use to be shameful and show a lot of resentment, anger and just had a self defeating attitude! Have you ever carried on in such a manner?
I DO ADMIT I AM POWERLESS! I had been sober for 5 years and one glass of Champagne on New Year’s night wasn’t even worth it! It was a very poor decision on my part. I blame NO ONE! But MYSELF! Life seems to be filled with trigger situations when you are recovering from alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex and it goes on.
A lifestyle of fame, having your way in notorious ways in impurities, your outcome is to take control in what you have done to reshape your experience of life trying to focus on the objective of what realistic is all about. Do you understand me? It’s real easy to be a “talker” and it’s real easy to “do.” You and I can be very lazy; we won’t do a damn thing until it’s too late, then what? Having a self defeating attitude takes a lot out of you. What about the self destructive attitude? It is said “The alcoholic leads a double life; very much the actor.”
Maybe it’s time to honor you, focus on the good in others. The best thing about all of this is having the courage and discipline, mind and body to build true character. You should honor yourself and respect your mind and body. Be aware of your limits, you deserve to have an awesome life this New Year 2012! It’s time for some self empowerment.
The first thing you must do is to learn to be honest, to be loyal to yourself; it will be truly awesome to be in touch with your inner being. Live a clean and sober life and if you try to do everything yourself, I promise you will be struggling very hard to keep your own house in order. It will be a challenge that will require you to have a fierce determination for new habits. “Soaring high with the Tiger Lady 2012!”
“Some of us didn’t “look like” addicts, but we were; some of us, on the other hand, did look like addicts. At first, drugs or booze turned us on; but later they turned on us. We couldn’t find any peace anywhere. We began to turn into the kind of person we didn’t want to be.
But we didn’t know what was happening to us or how to change it. When we came to believe that our lives could and would turn around if we would quit drinking or using drugs, things began to get better. Do I believe I can change?
Lord, help me to be open – minded and humble enough to believe that what has worked to change the lives of others will work to change mine. I will seek change in the following ways today: (From the Book of Hazelden Day By Day)
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Treading – Not Dreading!
“Nobody told me how hard and lonely change is.” – Joan Gilbertson
The mind of the Tiger Lady is back and it’s Thursday morning, Jan. 12, 2012, updating “Treading – Not Dreading!” Good morning to you! This is a friendly reminder: Keep your head above water today and keep trodden, no matter what! Are you hearing me? I bet you knew a lot about yourself and yet you became afraid of not knowing YOU! What is this that you have missed?
Wouldn’t it be great to know yourself and NOT fear yourself? Making an effort, instead of making no progress? Wait a minute! Let me share with you the complexity of my life as a prize fighter. In 1998 Inglewood, California at the Great Western Forum was my professional debut and I tell you greatly I feared! The only way for me was to walk in and place a foot down and move forward.
I was so alone, thousands of spectators watching and the truth is, I was so scared and the fight was on! “Jab, jab, right punch”” Left hook, right punch”, slip, bob and weave, “get out of her way!”” Get out of the corner!”” Stay in the center of the ring!” What the hell is my trainer telling me!? “Spit damn it!”
Treading! Not Dreading! Today, I say patience, trust, prayer and willingness can give you the power to go on, to keep your head above water. You say you have things under control. Do you? You say you know what’s best for your life and sometimes your plans may get out of line. You know and I know you have to walk in a unique way to walk over obstacles and stand tall. I will tell you this; it is so easy to fall into the trap of self-pity. Soaring high with the Tiger Lady 2012!
Treading _- Not Dreading!
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