“As a child, I walked through the world and awe. Each day started with a question and ended with a question. I had the mind of a beginner.” ~Anonymous
I am a woman in position to change and stand strong. I will not pretend to tell you that my life is glorious. But, I can say I once had hate and lived with fear and it left me with a decision to fight and let go all my garbage, for I am a woman in position of change and choice of positive attitude today.
Did you know that me, you and everyone else in this world keeps lying to ourselves, we question ourselves each day about our self growth; where am I going? What is my purpose in life? How am I going to live? As a woman we are in view of change in our lives and we not only endure physical bruises, but non visible pains endured rested squarely in the business world of political power, business of the sweet science of boxing; rather it is business of motherhood, we try to make a name for ourselves.
We women warriors strive to go deeper for our personal identity through our experiences. We do have a story to tell and as a woman in position to change and stand strong by choice. I will go at any extent to achieve victory for change now! To share for greatness and being true to my individuality, in order to move forward by choice. I am a woman in position to be bold enough to step out. All of us can be aware of who we are, you know and I know our life experiences is a lesson to bring us closer, its only the basic challenge of our woman warriorness, it makes so much sense to me.
What about you? Does this make sense? Keeping our sanity means self love and self – caring. Your view of reality is different from everybody in this world. Self respect will begin to grow and not feel we are going crazy. As I understand your deep, inner self is the self that is greater than whom you seem to be on the surface. In order to change by choice is we must find the power within. There is a power in me that am greater than the small self I’ve been accustomed to, it’s larger than the way I’ve been trained to think about whom I am.
I surrender to a part of me that carries wisdom and truth. Entering a new life with awareness and change, striving for improvement in my character and ability. I share openly from my life experiences, know what is right for me but not imposing on others. I respect that others may not agree or see things as I do and I’m accepting of that. I do however, trust my own feelings and intuitions as my personal guide through God. I am tolerant of others, I laugh, joke and smile with others, it comes unexpected. Harmony and Balance.
Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Be self – controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. ~ 1 Peter 5:6-8
Everybody wants change in their lives. We live in an unknown mask world, and its moving fast. I admit my powerlessness. Do you? We fear of being exposed, unable to change and our love ones intervenes, to understand or trying to change us of the powerful evilness that exist in our lives. You have challenging truth ahead, a focus of interest. Communication without consideration is what occurs when a business deal goes down with just an exchange of words with no deeper meaning or feelings behind them.
Right communication is forgotten in society, really. Sometimes, it’s not easy when you don’t do what you must do, and that is to truly communicate from within. This starts by understanding that true respect comes from the heart. It is the basis of right communication.
How can you say you want to change when truly not ready to make your obligations? It has now taken me four years! I was actually in mourning of retiring from my boxing career and going through changes with a TBI (traumatic brain injury) and I have to say, some people just doesn’t get it when it comes to a “invisible disability” they don’t. In this society it is obvious that our lives are out of control and unmanageable. It takes time to change for our self one day at a time.
The task is not to forget your past; as they say “It takes discipline to overcome your weakness.” This strengthens and feeds me today. Respecting my body and the first step is to avoid and eliminate the poison that goes in my body. All I know that the undesirable parts of us has to be removed and replaced with strong values. For so long I have lied to myself in order to meet my needs. Have you been there? Only when I acknowledge that I had no power at all was I able to start making sense of the difficulties in my life. We can learn to survive by being honest to ourselves; we sometimes lose sight of our priorities. And no matter what our situation, thinking of ourselves as powerless and unable to change can feel very threatening and uncomfortable. All I have to say today is asking our Lord Jesus Christ to refine us into the person HE desire, teach us to rely on HIM for all that we need in life.
Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. ~ Romans 12:10
Being a TBI (traumatic brain injury) survivor, I will quote in what was said in the book of Age – proofing your memory by Dr Arlene Taylor. “Your brain is unique and no two brains are alike.” How much do you know about the brain? What’s sad, many people know very little about brain function this includes their own brain. It is said that high levels of stress or chronic stress can damage the brain. It can actually destroy brain cells. So, this journey continues with change in my life and I share with you that mentally that my survivor sisters and brothers can humbly see things differently in life. You have to ask to do things differently in your life; that is from my experience. I am not perfect, I know this. If we all look deep within ourselves, that we be more honest and thoughtful, maybe this world will be liked. It is good to change to understand ourselves in new ways and prepare us for our healing, recovery.
Traumatic Brain Injury, Stroke, Cancer, Domestic Violence, Diabetes and life’s other unexpected. I know from my experience that some of you know that you can or willing to change now, making yourself better. I’m not giving up! It’s time to give up our least favorite patterns of life. I realize I am not; you are not completely in charge of when and how our lives will change. We won’t regret the past, but we also don’t want to repeat it. We must be willing for change today, willing to let go of habits or traits that cause our lives to be unbalanced. As Tony Robins will say; “What is the pain that keeps me from achieving this goal?” “Change my approach until I achieve what I want.” Is this clear for us to see?
How far can we go to change? I am committed people! There will be days that will kick me in the butt. No way man! I can’t let that happen, you feel me? All I have to say that we all can be a perfect person to be in this society today! No matter whom you might be. Remember, I am the “Tiger Lady” strong and sure. You have to handle frustration if you want to become all you can become. So, this question is for you: what changes you wish to make in your life?
What you heard from me, keep as the pattern of sound teaching, with faith and love in Christ Jesus. Guard the good deposit that was entrusted to you – guard it with the help of the Holy Spirit who lives in us. ~ 2 Timothy 1:13-14
This is the time to be free of all wreckage and move on to higher grounds. Having courage to change, asking God for his guidance to lead us in true direction in life. How can we gain peace if we are always down on ourselves, always in a hurry to do the right thing; before you know it, you are already in the midst of trouble.
This is familiar, right? “I’m so busy now.” “I just don’t have the time for you.” “I’m so worried about not having money.” “Life is so unfair.” My experience; I was blaming everybody for my mistakes and brain injury. I didn’t care! Today, I can say I do have the courage to go on, to reactivate myself within. I can’t live the past and many of us are living it this very second. Do we not realize this? This is a new beginning; you can agree with me or not agree with me. In fact, I know we continue to pass judgment or blaming others for our limitations, and we don’t take the time to look at ourselves to improve what we can do. I tell you, I am guilty of this.
In my experience, I’ve learned once you improve yourself, you won’t blame anyone because you are better. It’s the highest point we can touch, a point of true happiness. So, having the courage to change, we do find new balance in our lives, there is no need for jealousy, hatred, play the drama we see everyday and some believe it’s just the fact of life. Is it? It’s not real, it’s only drama played. Many of us are living the past and many not realize it. I’d like to share this story. I am a former professional boxer and TBI (traumatic brain injury) survivor. I am now opening my eyes to see what I have missed. I was tired of walking around feeling miserable. There was no joy in my heart and yet, I kept asking the Lord, “What is happening with me?” Feeling this way each day and wanted to know what my problem was.
I was full of denial, feeling sorry for myself. Mind you, I am coming out of the mist and I want allow the devil steal it from me through lies! As it is said “unbelief leads to disobedience.” Doubt is right along with unbelief.
The spirit of the Lord will come upon you in power, and you will prophesy with them; and you will be changed into a different person. Once these signs are fulfilled, do whatever your hand finds to do, for God is with you. ~ 1 Samuel 10:6-7
I pray today that God will give me and you a great year to see. God will help you and me to challenge this mean-ness we see in ourselves and others today. God will encourage us to walk in the power of his Holy Spirit. Jesus Christ has come into our life. He makes us spiritually! Jesus said we could be born again. I know I will start fresh like a new-born baby. When me and you ask Jesus into our life to us our savior. I ask that God gives us a clean slate. When you and me accept Christ as savior. God forgives our sins.
Unfortunately I still have old nature to contend with. I am still tempted to lie, cheat, steal, and be immoral. But I’m choosing to walk in the power of the Holy Spirit, overcoming my old sinful nature.
Therefore if any may be in Christ, he is a new creature : old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation. 2 Corinthians 5:17-18
You know, we see the world becoming corrupted and society becoming disturbed by changes of human politicians and living conditions. Now look, we look at ourselves, our own lives to understand who we are in our raging thoughts, we try to look for solutions and not faults. To believe very strongly that we human beings can learn new things and form new habits, personal growth and personal transformation, only to know who we are today in a true way and never acknowledge defeat! Have you ever been true to yourself? I haven’t until now; it took me 4 long years to understand myself. I look in the mirror “Who am I?” Such a simple question and yet I could show you a different identity to you. I tell myself that I am much more, because I am breathing, and living my life as I see fit. I don’t have to sit around feeling sorry for myself. My mother said “I don’t put much energy into ignorance. I get active, I don’t get bitter.” To tell the truth, I was bitter after a traumatic brain injury. I showed my ignorance and it had allowed me to become selfish, sluggish, depression and all I could say; who am I becoming? What is it that I want out of my life?
Have you ever played head games with yourself? After my boxing career, I had gained unwanted weight! Wait a minute! This is not the way I’m supposed to look, not at no age of 49. Have you heard of the “Challenge?” I realize I was in the unhealthiness and that illusion was messing with me. Obesity is no joke! I took the 90-Day Challenge this month after feeling uncomfortable. I am taking it seriously to transform my life and show that I can be a role model today. Look at your children. What do you see wrong?
I don’t have children, but I do understand coming out of old habits where the children, teens, young adults can see this and follow the way. It’s time to change ourselves and build new habits, where your children can see the goodness of life. We cannot change the children. It’s time to be a role model. It’s time to clean you up and it is time to take that challenge. It not easy. If we all can change, we will not have to worry about our future generations to come. Do you believe the time is now to take that 90 – Day challenge. Let’s adopt our new changing habits. This is only a reminder for me to keep striving, persevere. I am tired of twisting the knife in my wound I had created, it hurts so badly. I am sure of you agreed and am living it, seeing it day by day. We all have a choice with a new attitude today. I humbly asked God to remove my shortcomings. Taking my prayers seriously, a time to talk with God more in a personal way to remove the bad and give me strength to continue this 90 – Day challenge and enjoy all things and be blessed.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Why not join me with the 90 – Day Challenge. You want regret it at all. Give me some feedbacks, what do you think about the challenge? Will it change you? You don’t have time to think about it, just do it! You’ll be saving your own life and your children’s life. We have no time to play games. “Life is Challenged”
Are you willing to do whatever, to relieve the earth from distress? Today fear holds the earth captive, and courage is the ransom, but will you pay it? You and I know the awareness of danger exist in this world. I went through the whirlpool of life’s destruction. I call it “ignorance” because I was.
I studied and trained in the martial arts and one thing I knew how to do was to devote my energy. You know; to stay connected with yourself. To breathe in all goodness of life, because victory stays within. Don’t be afraid to see yourself as you truly are. Still learning not to defeat myself in every thing I do. I am – “all-or-nothing thinking.” I see things as either all good or all bad: e.g. “If I don’t succeed in this task, I’m a total failure.”
Mistaking feelings for facts: I confuse feelings or beliefs with facts: e.g. “I feel like a failure, so I must be a failure.” This I had learned at CORE Rehab. While learning cognitive skills and not lose myself. There is no room for self defeat as a TBI (traumatic brain injury) survivor, any survivors. There is no defeat!
I do not position myself through the means of one sharp blow to the head. What about you? You and I know we’ve been knocked down numerous of times in our lives. I could tell you, I have struggled back on my feet after a TBI (traumatic brain injury). I am not my secret past life, it has disappeared, destroyed! I have come forth out into the view from how adversity took control of my life.
I believe you and me have the forgiveness and a strong faith to begin a new life! THIS YEAR!! 2013. We have faced disappointments, road blocks on our journey looking for a correct path to exit on.
God, I know that I have not lived my life for you. I have been living for myself. I know that some of us in this world are powerless over the effects of our separation from You. I love God most of all, he has been with me through the good, the bad, and the ugly. All of us in society have the ability to create support for ourselves in our lives.
God in me is my strength; I can do all things, the power of God within. I am living my life on the level of faith.
Mind Of The Tiger Lady – Transition
Doctors would say to me: “You’ll be fine in a year or even 5 years” of recovery”. “It can be permanent”. What is this I have missed? What, permanent? I was told to adjust with my “New Self” and begin a new life. What does that mean, a “New Life?” It isn’t funny about an “invisible injury.” I’d get laughed at in my face. I was told there’s nothing wrong with me. I was told I looked normal. I tell you; family and friends don’t want to hear it. They don’t want to know about the brain.
A concussion is a very dangerous problem. It is a brain injury! All I have to say is honest with yourself today, trainers/coaches and your family. Let them know what you may be feeling. You could be saving your life. This was my problem from martial arts to boxing; I had no true communication with my Sensei or coaches. Instead I wanted to do what I wanted to do and yet it caught up with me having “Dementia Pugilistic” and “frontal lobe damage.” If you don’t take action, immediately you will go through hell, complications, even death. Boxing, MMA, UFC, Football, are the common type of brain concussion.
How do we understand brain injury (invisible injury)? A bump on the head, a jolt of the head, is a concussion, it can change the way your brain works. I will give you example of what it’s like to get a concussion or numerous concussions like myself. You can even have whip-lash inside the boxing ring. My head will ache, headaches, migraines, so much pressure that you just want to be left alone. The dizziness begin and there is vertigo with the room spinning, walking off-balance and falling. Feeling of nausea, sensitivity to light, including the loud noise, people talking, can’t walk in a grocery store, getting all paranoid. It’s time to isolate self, not thinking right, unable to concentrate. Out of luck, out of money and nobody gives a damn.
This continues, sick thinking. I do admit my mental illness and that’s okay. I am capable, I am powerful warrior. These symptoms can be dangerous game within if there was no help. It could cause tremendous brain damage. The best thing for a coach, trainer and parents is to take all blows to the head as a possible concussion and seek medical attention immediately is the best way. “Soaring High Up With The Tiger Lady!”
Jab! Right Punch! Left Hook! Right Upper Cut! Jab! Jab! “What are you doing!?” shouts the coach. Sometimes you don’t hear, you just keep moving inside that ring, hoping you don’t get knocked out! It can happen. I have never been knocked out as a professional boxer and martial artist; but I sure got knocked around numerous of time, including knocked down and I manage to get right back up to repeat it all over again. Dazed and confused and I wasn’t telling the coach how I felt, just continue it. After the fight, it is just not right feeling as though I need to be isolated, away from the world, lying to myself and not telling the truth to my coach in what I felt.
According to Dr Nitin Sethi (braindiseases.wordpress.com) that anyone can identify a concussion when the boxer is knocked out and suffers prolonged loss of consciousness (5 mins.) I am going to say, it is a destructive self difficult to function inside that ring. Dr Nitin Sethi says,” boxers has gone to fight after sustaining a concussion and even win the fight only to be found dead in his bed the next day”. (Second Impact Syndrome).
You are capable of coming back to your best and highest self, maintaining this, you must practice and train yourself each and everyday. Change is beautiful! I know this from experience. When you have faith,your eyes can be bright and you can be so powerful,confident.
These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. ~ John 16:33
John 3:16-17 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
The question: Where is your brain? Do know where your brain is? Believe me, I am just learning about my brain. People use to tell me; “Brenda, your brain is fried!” I would laugh and joke about it. This is when I was drinking and drugging, martial arts, and boxing. Not realizing the consequences I will face as time goes on. My question to myself: “Do I know where my brain is?” Where was I inside that boxing ring? Not remembering a damn thing! What was I doing the night before? Do you remember what you were doing while in that boxing ring, football field; perhaps the corruption we have gone through in our lives? Can you remember your concussions? BLACKOUT! IRRITABILITY, HEADACHES, BLURRED VISION, UNABLE TO FOCUS, DEPRESSION, SUICIDAL and the list goes on. Personality begins to change. Hey! I do have a lot of wisdom and I express myself clearly, easily affected from the gut and heart. To tell you, I don’t pretend to “know” everything. And yet, I will share openly from my life experience. I will not be inconvenience to you. I will trust my gut and knowledge as my personal guide along with God by my side.
I am practicing to improve myself mentally and physically, the time to challenge “self” has now come. So, to understand your brain, you’ve got to understand yourself, though it is true that corruption and destruction exist around you. I can say that in our ignorance we agonized ourselves by not being true to self. Not to mention concussions, traumatic brain injuries, contusions, hematoma, vestibular dysfunction resulting from brain injury.
Here we can either take a stand to know and feel what a human go through with a concussion, an injury to the head from a blunt trauma, a loss of consciousness, loss of memory, amnesia. When it is, nothing you see or hear will interest you. You will make no attempt to understand the impaired cognitive function. The mind or body decreases, suck dry of independence of life. So, to understand your brain, you’ve got to understand yourself and yet again you do not really know what your brain is. You only live and have life, have no concerns, insecure or avoidance.
We need to know that the brain is amazing three-pound universe. According to Dr Arlene Taylor, PhD and Dr Eugene Brewer, EdD “Your Brain Has a Bent (Not a Dent!) states : We live in an ever – interconnected world of relationships where one person does make a difference. The brain health of one soul can be more infectious than any Mad Cow virus. The inner soul desires, fuels, hopes, and dreams of a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being. Each of us deserves more out of life and can have more, even the abundant life. It begins by personally connecting your brain to your hopes, or creating a new vision of desires.
To read more of Dr Arlene Taylor’s articles go to www.arlenetaylor.org
You must hear this young child speak .
Have you ever thought and wonder what we are here for? For our society is hurting! Some say: “don’t sweat the small stuff.” and yet, it’s all small stuff. Isn’t it time to choose a new behavior pattern? You don’t have to impress others, because we all act differently. You and I including your children today are no longer anyone’s victim. I believe we are so preoccupied with “ourselves” that we’ve become selfish and self-centered. Are you on the right path today? No, right this second, are you on the right path? An inmost part of something with better strategies for the outside world. Our society. It could be our time to be on a journey of change and transformation and higher knowing. “Wisdom.”
We are promised that God will be with us no matter what we face in our lives. Being unstoppable and strong is our choice! Being bigger than our concerns and worries including our disabilities that some don’t believe it exist and that it can be worked on as the day goes by. It is the strength of others that continues their journey and not give up.
I believe my mind and body is strong and can accomplish anything in life.
Philippians 3:14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
A 16-year-old boxer died Thursday about one hour after receiving a blow to the face during a sparring match.
Raul Alvarez Jr. of North Hollywood, Calif., was working out at Pullmans Gym in Burbank Thursday evening at around 6 p.m. when his sparring partner hit him the face, reports KTLA. Alvarez complained about head pain, and an ambulance came to whisk him to the hospital.
Alvarez reached the hospital conscious at around 6:45 p.m., but an hour later, he was dead.
Police officers happened to be at the hospital for an unrelated case when Alvarez died. Burbank police Sgt. Darin Ryburn told City News Service that Alvarez had “complained of pain from light sparring while boxing.” When at the hospital, Alvarez suddenly became unconscious and doctors couldn’t revive him, explained Ryburn.
Both Alvarez and his sparring partner were wearing protective head gear and regulation boxing gloves, reports CBS2/KCAL9.
A 19-year study on the rise of boxing injuries, released in 2011, found that 2,500 children under 17 years old are treated in emergency rooms every year from injuries related to boxing, reports KTLA in the video above.
Pullmans Gym teaches “boxing for kids” classes three times a week, and a monthly membership starts at $60.
From the Huff Post; Los Angeles,California
I could remember 1993 living in Los Angeles, California. Lost and confused about my life. Where the hell am I leading myself? I had nowhere to go and the only thing was to continue being a mortician aid and entering the hard-core boxing gym in south central Los Angeles and the challenge was to walk in the man’s “domain” and do what I am supposed to do. I was to be a “strong” woman to hold myself up from danger, which is what I was walking into. Hoping my “old school” coach will lead me in the right direction of boxing and not throw me in the square ring with big thugs who looked as though they were hungry and Eagar to get me out of their domain. As a woman, I should not be in that atmosphere.
Remember, women were just now coming out, getting our boxing license, physical exam and the works. New knowledge had come along, repeated head trauma trend to have an increasing outcome in its impact on thinking. Women are in the boxing ring to inflict cumulative blows to the head with the goal of giving her opponent a sufficient concussion to render her unconscious. Boxing death does happen. Are you listening to me? I may be “punch drunk” as a woman due to repeated head trauma inside the square ring.
Having that second impact syndrome is no joke when already sustained a head injury, sustains a second head injury before symptoms from the first injury have resolved. This happens because boxers, football players or other athletes have returned to their game too soon either due to not being true with themselves, their coaches, family. Concussions are nothing to play with, I know! I lie to my coaches/trainer about how I felt. My thinking wasn’t right, headaches begins to pound, balance is not right, no kind of energy, just tired! Overwhelmed with the loud noises and the light was terrible to my eyes. I didn’t feel normal, felt sad, depressed all the time. I was even having a hard time falling asleep, concentration was not there. Who have I become? This is very serious. Boxing deaths: According to the British Medical Association, there have been 140 deaths associated with boxing worldwide since 1990. Two of those deaths involved women boxers. U.S. fighter Stacy Young died in 2003 after accumulation of blows to the head that caused swelling and bleeding in the brain.
Becky Zerlentes died after absorbing a hard punch above the eye in 2005 bout. She staggered forward after taking the blow, fell to the canvas and never regained consciousness. She died a few hours after she was brought to the hospital and the cause of death was internal bleeding as a result of blunt force trauma. All I have to say a former boxer please communicate honestly with your trainers, coaches on how you feel of any head injury. For you young athletes, communicate with your parents, they are the ones you can trust more. Don’t ever, ever, hide the concussion you are having.
• International Boxing Association; Safety of women’s boxing; Charles Butler 2008
• FSS Club: Injuries in women’s boxing
• British Medical Association: Boxing ring tragedies: By Steve Silverman
The Mind of the Tiger Lady is back! We Are Beautiful in God’s Eyes. – ROUND 4
“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge, I also will reject you from being My priest. Since you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your children.” Hosea 4:6
The highest truth is to know the outcome of your consistent emotions and health. Taking control and be bold enough to stand tall. You are beautiful in God’s eyes. Do you think we are missing something in our experiences of life?
There are those who are unable to get out of their beds to see what God has painted on the outside for them to see. That gift we all see is priceless from God. In spite of all the adversities people are dealing with, that they do remind themselves that life is really about living, it’s not about the invisible disability they carry and society does not see it. It’s not about the disability you do see each day. It is about living one day at a time, and being bold enough to stand and fight what’s right.
Let me say this. Seeing a video of a little girl reminded me of myself as a 9-year-old growing up in the 70′s challenging every boy and girl I saw. I wanted to be the best! I had my first football at the age of 10 and I remember wanting to be the best female quarterback, just to out throw the boys. Apparently, that did not happen, I went on to better things, like kicking Ass! I study Tae Kwon Do and Kajukenpo at age 10, I knew I could fight ALL the boys and challenge them all. And that’s what I did. I knew I could out throw the boys, I knew I could be the best quarterback, the best puncher, have the best kicks!
Today, I look at the girls knowing they can do whatever a boy can do. A woman can do whatever a man can do. As women athlete, we dream to be the best, be the top female ever cross this planet. She can take her training and dreams very serious. So, what does a girl and woman athlete have in common? They are in position of power within themselves and nobody can stop them.
This little 9-year-old girl, Sam Gordon can’t be touched. Not unless society steps in to be against this happening. There are professional women football players and all I can say; she can do this! But society have a different view, they see injuries happening because she is playing football with bigger boys! There is the rise of “concussions” today. Do we really know this? Did you know, at least two injury sites from one blow caused by the brain bouncing back and forth against the skull. Is there a way that you can prevent concussions from happening? There are potential complications following a concussion, TBI (traumatic brain injury): You will have a tendency for re-injury, depression and anxiety, avoiding activities, functional difficulties at work, school, and home. Not to mention, isolation, problems with the law and/or litigations.
According to CNS (Centre For Neuro Skills) 1.4 million people suffer a TBI each year in the U.S., of these, between 75% and 90% are categorized as MTBI (Mild Traumatic Brain Injury). MTBI’s cost the nation nearly $ 17 billion each year. Research indicates that up to 15% of patients diagnosed with MTBI may have persistent, disabling problems. This is for your “FYI.”
“The LORD is gracious and righteous; our God is full of compassion. The LORD protects the simplehearted; when I was in great need, he saved me. Be at rest once more, O my soul for the LORD has been good to you.” PSALMS 116:5-7
The Mind of the Tiger Lady is back! What does it mean, when a concussion occurs to your loved ones, friends, and your child, Amateurs and professional boxing; not to forget the football players, USA soldiers? Listen, does this sound familiar: “It can’t happen to me,” “My head can take the blows,” “I’m tough enough!” “I just got knocked on the head, I’ll be okay today.”
The scoop is concussion could take you away from your job, goals, plans, family, including yourself. Some of you may disagree with what I just mention and that is okay. I’ve learned this while living in Cognitive Rehabilitation after my TBI (traumatic brain injury) and it was told to me; that not all brain injuries are the same. I am a TBI (traumatic brain injury) survivor and have had numerous of concussions from my “teen” days to adult and still learning about this new “self.”
I tell you! I am not the same as “old school” days. Yep! We can change and also have new goals, a new life. I was in denial of everything that was going on with me. But, I tell you this, we can actually change for the better, by “letting pain go and bring pleasure in.” I use to pay no attention to myself when my head was hit on, kicked at, and as me and you know, we just keep on stepping, doing the same things over again, not realizing of the “Head Trauma.”
Let’s define “Concussion” according to CNS (Centre for Neuro Skills) a mild blow that can cause shearing of brain cells at a level undetected by CT scans or MRI’s. One violent brute force that lands, it only takes one blow to the head. It causes your brain to rebound after deadly impact against your skull. Imagine the football player on the field enduring the effect of a sudden force. I could only see when the players take off in speed lighting trying to make a touchdown or getting through blockers and linebackers. WOW! Impact is solid and their brains are just bouncing against the skull.
Look at the amateur and professional boxers. Believe me! The impact of a punch to the head or upper cuts to the chin is no joke. I know this, can you feel it: “Jab, Jab,” “right punches,” “left punches” follow by a “left hook” or a “powerful punch” from your dominate side. You will feel the impact! I use to feel those impacts sparring men, and challenging the top female boxers in the world.
Just recently, I actually knocked myself out! Emergency room I go. Getting a CT scan; only I was discharge with a “mild concussion.” How did this happen? Not really sure. All I could say, “Not again, Tiger Lady!” You have to know the symptoms that one feels is confused, headaches begin to take over, not able to concentrate or focus on what you are doing, your sleep is off or you are unable to sleep. What would you do? How would you feel?
“I have strength for all things in Christ who empowers me. I’m ready for anything and I’m equal to anything through him who infuses inner strength into me. That is, I am self sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency.” Philippians 4:13 (AMP)
This is a new chapter and I am back. I can only tell you it has been a journey of change and a path for growth. Have you ever been attacked violently in the head, punched on violently, or even fallen in such a violent drop to the floor or mat, even by vehicle and domestic violence? I have to ask you this, because it is simple to get a concussion. This is serious and I want you to know this.
Having a concussion can have dangerous, harmful long term effects, especially blows to the head repeatedly. Do you understand me? Today, we all are sustaining more concussions, no matter if you are an athlete, victim of a crime. You and I should know that the brain moves violently with the skull and then what?
Let me tell you, as a retired professional boxer and past martial artist, I never knew about “concussions” in the past as a child martial artist. I just knew that kicking and punching will be my life and I won’t be stopped until it’s time for me to stop and changed. I have had head trauma and I didn’t run. I took blows to the head and these blows came from men boxers during my times of training and women boxers during my times of boxing with them.
My message is: You shouldn’t fool yourself. It’s time to be honest with yourself, your trainers/coaches, even your doctors on how you feel when it comes to a concussion or even a mild one. You have to go back to yourself, take good care of you and recognize the suffering you put yourself in. Remember, if you fall into poor health because of a concussion, dementia pugilistic or what have you; insurance might be able to cover the cost. But how could insurance replace the time that you lose? How could insurance pay for the pain and suffering that you would endure? Material possessions can be replaced but you cannot replace your mind or body.
What is it that a young woman can do today? Does she have to prove to you or to the world what she can do?
The young woman travels her journey and knows her path is the square ring. There is no stopping her now. It takes courage for a young woman to box and challenge other young women in the world today. Some call this a dangerous game for her; a risk – taker looking for death. Everywhere you go in society is a risk! So what have we missed?
The young woman is not some breed of character just because she wants to be in a man’s domain to craft her vision of being the best female boxer in the world. The young woman trains her body and mind day and night. Do you know this? I know this. I’ve been in this young woman’s path before. The young woman of today has been chosen for a new journey; at last discovering the true self with an open mind of who she is in that square ring.
She is unstoppable! She is capable! She will not be defeated! Very much so unbeatable!
The young woman need not defeat herself; she is looking toward victory of USA Games! Therefore, she will always know to protect herself at all times; by keeping her guards up! In fact, the young woman of the USA Olympic Boxing Team can continue to increase her faith and confidence, strength and her courage in the Lord; knowing she can do all things through Christ that strengthens her.
The young woman knows what she wants, to be strong, a strong athletic woman. As a child being inspired to be that woman of strength, hope for the next generation to rise! Take a look at Christi Martin the pioneer of women boxing, Laila Ali, Anne Wolfe; all of us that have retired; walked away from promises, injuries, families. Today, the women keeps trudging her true path with God, finding her true self; to have the right mental attitude to live on each day.
The young woman has the opportunity to change her life today; she is in position of power. It’s not easy for her to be in a man’s domain to train daily mentally and physically conditioning herself to rise for greatness. This is her time for emotional control.
Flurries of jabs, right cross, upper cuts, even sparring each other and challenges of sparring men in sweat, blood, and walking away as a woman warrior being battered by devoting their selves in training, taking demands from a man or woman coaches who knows the true sweet science of art. The young woman pushes herself to the limit of her capabilities, to test her progress in the square ring, knowing she is now a pugilist with dreams of being the best in the world and pound for pound.
The young women of boxing are hungry for success. The young woman dream and are inspired by other women boxers who continues to strive and maintain a high level of self motivation, the willingness to persevere with her training. The young woman endures discomfort and stress out with the sacrifices of her time and energy. The love and the passion grow and the fire inside her is so strong. This is an important desire for a young woman who wants to meet success.
She cannot be stopped; only she can stop within and end her own game. Boxing means a different purpose for a young woman, for many may think she has no purpose in the boxing world.
As a young woman, she leads with soundness from within; she can open the door to a whole new way of her boxing skills. As all women boxers, they strive to not have disappointment or circumstances get in the way; they are to make real decisions to live their lives as they see fit. That is setting a new standard, not to live her life that has the world’s approval.
“Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”
As they say; “being in the wrong place, at the wrong time! I’m sure that has happened to most of us. Maybe it’s “fate”, maybe for you young people you just didn’t listen to your parents like you should have and you went out any damn way. For us grown folks, we knew what we were doing while there in the first place.
I guess we never learn until it happens to you! Let me tell you a little of my experience while I was living in the city of Los Angeles, Ca. I was some what a naïve Texan and not yet street smart. I had better grow up pretty damn quick or else, I will be eaten up alive! My first taste of street violence was being hit from behind; at the back of my head with a 2×4, it almost knocked me out, in fact it probably did for a few seconds because all I saw was blackness and down I went. Looking at 4 thugs, looking back at me, telling me “Shut the fuck up!”
These thugs only took a back pack full of sand weights; I was jogging that evening preparing for a fight. That only lets you know how ignorant people really are. All that hard work and energy they did to hit someone across the head just to get a running bag; assuming it was possibly a purse I had. Such fools! This pops in my head knowing I am bless to be alive today.
Watch the video! Tell me what you think of it or how you feel about it. It’s really happening out there and we must watch out for our young people especially. They need to learn the safety zone for survival.
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Escape was the plan! Did they make it? Two white males from the Black River Correctional Center of Tomah, Wis. Had easily escaped! Oh, I’m sorry. Let me put it this way; they (2 inmates) had easily walked away from the Black River Correctional facility.
They then kidnapped a woman, stealing a vehicle! What?! You have got to be kidding me?!
Get this; the two white male inmates 29 years old and 18 years old were to be released from prison less than six months for their freedom doing time. FREEDOM! And what did they do? Sweet goodbye to society, they put citizens in hiding and danger. So, for these two “morons,” knuckle heads will be on parole the remaining of who knows when. I’ve seen this done numerous of times when I was a Correctional Officer in a all men minimal prison. The questions; why in the hell do the inmates continue to attempt to run, escape, walk! And it’s time to being discharge, freedom out into the real world.
Some use to tell me; there is no home to go too. The prison has 3 meals, hot showers, cable t.v., medical, and the list goes on. Well I am damn! They do better then the outside world I think. So, I guess I best stop the keyboard. Tell me what you think? How you feel about the situation?
You decide for yourself; if this young man’s heart was in the right place when he wrote this. Was it for himself? or was it truly for the victim(s)? I can tell you this; I am no “angel” and I know, I’ve been around the block a few times in my life and today, I’ve learned not to be selfish or self centered. So, hear these words of this young man’s heart, you decide.
Understanding my outer-self will be easy for you to comprehend ‘cause we are all humans. But for you to understand my inner-self will be complicated. In order to understand my inner-man (intimately) you will have to experience and feel what it is like living in a prison cell. You will have to experience being confined to loneliness, despair, sorrow, hate, angry, misery, oppression, depression, pain, and discomfort.
To understand my inner man, you will have to become incarcerated, placed in Solitary Confinement, serving a life sentence, with no hope of ever going home. In order to comprehend why I walk the way I walk, why I talk the way I talk, why I act the way I act and think the way I think, is to understand my imprisoned conditions. To understand my inner stress, my inner depression, my inner loneliness, my inner desire to strive for wisdom and knowledge; and to fight for my freedom. To understand me is to understand the tears of pain I shed when my life was snatched from me. To understand me is to experience the foulness I eat every day, to experience the foulness I see every day, to experience the foulness I hear every day, and to experience the foul individuals I come across everyday. To experience the struggle of fighting desperately hard not to become the foulness this prison was built upon.
To understand my inner man is to understand a lost and broken heart trying to mend itself back together.
To understand my inner man is to understand the meaning of my emotional tears, emotional pain, and emotional emotions.
To understand me is to understand my struggles in becoming a “Real Man,” with integrity, purpose, goals, morals, ethics, ambitions, self-determination, empowerment, passion, compassionate, knowledge, wisdom, and intelligence; in a place (prison) that is known to only breed mentally and emotionally broken people. Whose only motive in life is negativity (violence) and never positivity (righteousness).
Try standing strong mentally, emotionally and spiritually against all the negative demons I battle with each day. Try fighting a battle that has only brought you frustration, anger, and stress.
To understand my inner man is to understand what it is like to fight a physiological war, emotional war, mental war, and physical war for the rest of your life. Understand this, I’m far from a bad, evil person, for I possess a golden, pure heart. So is it because I have to fight demonic negative evil spirits of men that makes me a bad person? Or is it because I have to commit certain un-righteous deeds and acts in order to continue prevailing in this war, that makes me a bad man? In order for you to understand what I just wrote you will have to experience being incarcerated in prison. You will have to understand yourself, then understand the limits, also risks you are willing to take in order to achieve and survive in life. To understand my inner man is to understand “struggle” and “life.” To understand me is to understand a slave whose been taken from his homeland and held captive (forcedly) with a loss of willpower. To understand my inner man is to understand true freedom and to understand captivity.
To understand my inner man is to understand that no matter how bad your living conditions may be and the circumstances of your life, life is never over. With self- determination, self-empowerment, self-drive to want something better out of life, you will never be defeated by the elements of life. Understanding yourself and your life (truly understanding those two things), then you will understand me and my inner man
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By the Beat Within a Juvenile Justice System Writing Workshop
Yesterday July 17, 2012 there was a major drug bust at the Ohio High School. Get this. A 16 year old accused of running a multimillion dollar ring operation in two school districts, dealing high – grade marijuana! In fact, the youth profit $20,000 a month! Under the roof of his parent’s home, in his own bedroom. That’s bold enough! The cops raided the youth’s bedroom and found over $6,000 in cash! All I have to say; “Shut the front door on this one.”
Somehow, youth today seem to be scoring high on the “high – grade” hydroponic strain of marijuana and it’s being sold for $350 – $400 an ounce in the Ohio School District. Parents, are you missing something here? What is the problem of our young youth of today?
Whatever happened to “Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” Colossians 3:20-21
Did you know that the Ohio Law still allows many youth to become involved with the adult system today? Recently in the Criminal Justice system or in adult facilities; as in jails or prisons; youths are prosecuted as adults and has negative effects that are both long lasting and dangerous to youth and to the communities to which they return too. When I was a young girl growing up into my teens 16 or 17 yrs old; I really thought I had it together and it was only me that stood in the way of my growth and yet I put the blame on everybody!
Some things do go unchallenged and when you’ve lost faith in yourself, it’s only too easy to find it in anything else.
Falling through the cracks! A new look at Ohio Youth in the Adult Criminal Justice System.
I am what I am to do now into the unknown. In my discovering of the unknown feelings of powerlessness is a realization of insane behavior, doing the exact same things over again expecting different results! Forced by impulsiveness and trapped in obsessive thinking.
Experiencing the “hard knocks” of life, things perhaps do get out of hand, which leads to a dangerous path and yet continued to be walked on. Uneasiness is an Unknown object, a traumatic moment. Could this be basic human option? To hide your shame, challenge your safety, or to move forward and accept yourself as you are, not compromise yourself.
In fact! I believe we do not trust or accept ourselves enough to be ourselves today, not prepared to accept “hard knocks.”
We covered our true identity up with a false mask in society today and somehow that so call mask is ugly to begin with. Maybe it’s time to make a basic decision about how we intend to spend our lives. I tell you I’ve been wrong before and knocked down a few times. I’ve made many wrong choices in my life; everything is subject to change.
Good or bad is your choice. You are more likely to strike out or lose patience when angry or afraid than when you are calm and self – assured.
Loss of control, making senseless choices, unable to interrupt those choices and yet somehow cut off loved ones, friends and the people who cares for you and who can help you along the way.
Beginning to believe there is no hope at all! At the unknown stage of good and evil. There comes a moment when at a lost and stuck in an unexplored kinetic force. There are feelings of loss options, a feeling of frustration,anger, resentment, tension, helpless, and even desperate. The unknown pops up like an invitation to Hell; it’s given a choice to live, die, alcohol, drugs, insanity; a path of unknown war from within. There is no need to hide the sins, every relaspe becomes unknown, don’t know when it will hit. Let it be clear of the possibility of victory during the unknown loss of structure. It’s just a lack of knowledge about the unknown which has no meaning, just urgent choices. Is it impossible to not know the truth of you or is it best to take that risk to know the true self? What do you think and feel? Thank you for dropping by.
Do you trust it? Can you even see it? I’m talking to you…can you even hear me? Do you really trust the unknown? Can you look at society for a minute? I’m sorry; can we all look at this world together! What is happening with the system? Do we run away from the unknown? Should we even fear it?
Do we stand still and let it be unknown for the next generation to be? Is there a strong foundation for our young generations today to stand their ground and not fall flat and be the missing link in the unknown society of compulsion and control?
Transformation in the unknown society which is masked by the suffering of corruption prepares you for defense. You can say that the “unknown” streets are dying in this world. Where I come from, obedience and discipline was harsh; I had to obey in order to learn something about life. Cannot learn this today, it’s unknown. Society is easily being corrupted today!
Do you remember your obedience and discipline back then? Imagine this unknown masked society. The unknown journey continues. Thank you for dropping by.
Is this the time to see the symptoms of the ultimate reality of “false mask society” of the high risk cold blooded confused self? I can be destructive and what can you do about it? Do you really think you can intervene before the outcome? Let me say; you are a vulnerable human being. Have you been misunderstood? What is this that you have missed?
As J.Krishnamurti put it: “If I am greedy, envious, violent, merely having an ideal of nonviolence, of non-greed, is of little value. But to know that one is greedy or violent, to know and understand it, requires an extraordinary perception, does it not? It demands honesty, clarity of thought, whereas to pursue an ideal away from what is an escape; it prevents you from discovering and acting directly upon what you are.”
I will share my experience with you to only let you know that I am the problem and not the world. You see, for a minute I was one that became antisocial after my boxing career was over and dementia pugilistic had set in. The personality I created was unknown to me and I had blamed others for everything I did. I was irresponsible, manipulative, and very impulsive and alcoholism took over. It took understanding and perseverance to understand myself, hoping to understand society and how it works.
Yes! I had to get myself in order and not allow anyone to transform me into something I didn’t want to be. At one time or another I had that low level risk of “psychotic” break. Sometimes you see no empathy! You see no remorse! So you see an antisocial one in violation engaged in your society. They continue to lie, steal, kill, and of course you become the victim. Are you mad at the system? Or perhaps are you mad at yourself?
Look, you live a non criminal and non psychopath lifestyle, you have the cognitive and effective duties each day.
Cold blood violence in your society today and unfortunately ego, selfishness, lack of empathy gets in the way of the innocence because of the psychopath’s violations. My experience as a former correctional officer, I do understand the “false mask society” cold blooded confused self.
There are a lot of people whom are innocent, vulnerable in their community and yet are sitting on a dangerous area of trust, honesty, love and find themselves in “false mask society” very much so powerful.
How should you think? Are you the one with the mask on your face? Look at yourself this very second, are you? Are you loyal to that mask you wear today? Is it because you have no choice but to put a mask on your face each day to walk out into society? Have you ever removed your mask and actually taken a good look at yourself. NO! To look at the real YOU in your mirror? I say no more.
“Nobody told me how hard and lonely change is.” – Joan Gilbertson
Each day keeping the head above water, not sure which way the path goes and yet, challenges and trails we meet along the way. I know that life’s challenges can hit hard! Are you hearing me? I think that we are afraid to know ourselves, afraid to change. Wouldn’t it be great to know yourself and NOT fear yourself? Making an effort instead of making no progress. You know, “to be a good human to yourself.”
Why do we commit to change ourselves, our attitudes and then not do it? My words may not be important to you or motivating; but it makes sense to me in renewing myself. Take the challenge to change and follow through with my commitment, it is critical at this time to look deep within, most importantly is get down on my knees and let go, let God. It is a great time to look inside ourselves, to become truthful. We’ve become accustomed to hiding from our true feelings and values. I am just now learning this. I use to be too concerned with how I look on the outside and I never took the time out to know me, who I was, what I really felt, wanted and needed. The front door of my inner self was lock, unable to walk through the trash of my destructive behavior.
We are all losing contact with our inner selves. Really! Take a look at you, the time is now to admit our powerlessness and feel the discomfort of what is happening; we are full of denials and full of lies. Every denial will always remain a problem. To tell you my opportunity today to learn who I am by being honest with myself and those around me. Becoming aware of my blindness, we are all at the phase of blindness. We are living in a mask society, this world is unseen. I know it takes courage to be honest with ourselves. Change is important to me this New Year. Change is possible; there is a solution and therefore it is time to discover ourselves, stop trying to control.
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. ~ Ephesians 4:22-24
“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips.” –Proverbs 4:23-24 (NIV)
The mind of the Tiger Lady is back! It is Friday morning January 27, 2012. Good morning to you! I am updating “Mentally.” You mentally learn respect, determination, patience and confidence. You physically learn speed, power, coordination and control. As a former student of Chung Su
Nim “Iron” Kim, the mental and physical discipline is still with me today, nothing is lost, so I do appreciate in what I have accomplish.
I will share with you that mental development is vital in learning to control your knowledge. Because anybody can kick, anybody can punch; that’s easy to do! Using concentration and the willingness to challenge and better you, sometimes you are more likely to strike out or lose patience when angry than when you are calm and self – assured.
Maybe you want entertainment and no time for responsibilities of disciplines, or you have to make use of assets, strengths and resources; you have to know you are in charge of your life and can make different choices for positive steps. You know what I am saying?
Only through diversity of opinion is there, in the existing state of human intellect, a chance of fair play to all sides of the truth. Perhaps you recognized the necessity to the mental well – being of mankind of freedom of opinion, and freedom of the expression reclaiming femininity of opinion.
The process of change can be tough, so many options in life and you got to change the way you think. It’s time for “self – trust” there is no time for self – pity. It’s important to remain honest with yourself and choose a new behavior pattern to improve your performance.
Soaring high with the Tiger Lady 2012!
Did you know traumatic brain injuries are different and each of us recovers at a different pace – some of us sooner, some of us later?
The mind of the Tiger Lady is back today August 28, 2011…..
I love being athletic, I have always been active in my life. Now that I’ve retired from professional boxing years ago, I realize now how important it is to keep up with your health. So, it’s time to get off my lazy medicated ass and do something about self.
I don’t know about you, but I’m talking about looking healthy at 47 years old, be strong and feel good about myself. There’s nothing better than getting up and preparing your mind and body for a great start of fuel and head out the door for the gym and work that body!
Motivation is the most important part to keep you going and I do know fitness and staying in shape is a “lifestyle.” I am so motivated that it is a MUST to get a camera and record results of transformation.
This article was written by Dr Arlene Taylor PhD, known to be one of the world’s leading speakers on brain function, is also sometimes referred to as the brain guru.
Studies by Adrian Raine, University of Pennsylvania, suggest a connection between reduced amygdala function at age three and possible later criminal activity. As an aside:
Adult psychopaths appear to have an 18% reduction of the volume of the amygdala compared with non-psychopaths.
The orbital frontal cortex tends to be associated with being antisocial when its volume is smaller; as a group, men have a smaller orbital frontal cortex than women, which may help explain why men as a whole tend to commit more crimes than women.
Posted by Arlene R. Taylor ph D. www.arlenetaylor.org
Associations are how we represent people, places, things, events, etc. when our brain decides to store that information for later. As I mentioned in a previous article on Neurobics, many of us enjoy putting a name with a face and voice that we may hear on the other end of the phone. This emphasizes two of our senses in identifying a person: vision and hearing. The brain takes these two senses (or more if you shake the person’s hand – touch) and links them to form the association. Pavlov’s dog is a perfect example of ringing a bell being associated with being ready to eat food.
Once associations are formed in your brain, they take up residence in your long-term memory. Because each memory could be represented in different areas of your brain, the more associations, or networks, the more your brain is sheltered in losing the memory’s representation. Now, there is hope for those folks who are in their 40’s and 50’s. The brain is near or at its peak performance at this age. Building your associations using strategies of different senses helps protect us from losing our “processing power” later in life. As the book, “Keep Your Brain Alive” states, the “larger your ‘safety net’, the better your chances of solving a problem or meeting a challenge are” because you simply have more connections available to reach a solution.
In the next article, I’ll talk about how routines can be “brain-deadening”.
Keep Your Brain Alive – 83 Neurobic Exercises to help prevent memory loss and increase mental fitness
Neurobics? What’s that? Never heard of it before now. Neurobics is an exercise program to help you maintain a continuing level of mental Fitness, strength, and flexibility as you get older. This program calls for “presenting the brain with non-routine or unexpected experiences using various combinations of your physical senses – vision, smell, taste, touch, and hearing – as well as your emotional ‘sense’.” In other words, Neurobics activates different areas of the brain and makes the brain more agile and flexible, so that it will be ready to take on any mental challenge.
Since Neurobics is based on how the brain works, the exercises take information from the five senses to enhance the brain’s natural association between them. For example, we’ve all said, “It’s nice to put a name with a face,” when we’ve met someone for the first time with whom we’ve talked on the phone. This emphasizes two of our senses identifying a person: vision and hearing. To add touch and smell to associating a person’s name with a visual, remember how his hand felt when you shook it, or how he/she smelled if they were wearing cologne/perfume. Since you are now using other ways to remember information (names) and strengthening the number of ways to remember (sight, touch, smell, hearing), the better chances of remembering names, solving a problem, or meeting a challenge are increased because your brain has more pathways available to retrieve the information in the future. Make sense?
Next time, I’ll talk about routines and how they aren’t as good as we thought.
Living our lives, well we REALLY DON’T KNOW what’s on the other side… People might think, as I did, but the other side could mean changing your life forever….. What do I mean by this? Picture yourself waking up, going to work, during that time you have a small accident (and not thinking much of it), continue working, being finished you go home, now its evening and friends are calling you to go out, your mind is not set on going out because of you having a headache, going to sleep, and so on for three and a half more days until you DON’T WAKE UP….
I just turned 21 years old and thinking that nothing was going to stop me! I was now a real adult…and had the I.D. to prove it. But, as soon as I turned 21 a few days later, my life changed forever. I experienced a major blood clot in my head, that was slowly entering into my brain from that small accident. The reason for the accident was because I fell ONLY about four feet and hit the ground (dirt and grass). Now, me being into sports, THERE WAS NO WAY I WAS THINKING THAT THIS WAS GOING TO HAPPEN…
The last few hours at home sleeping, I fell into a coma. I experienced a Subdural Hematoma. I was rushed to the hospital and after two brain surgery’s (the 2nd one was because my brain started to swell) I continued to lay in a coma. Thanking God, after two and a half weeks I was able to come out of the coma, BUT HAD TO RELEARN EVERYTHING OVER AGAIN…
After losing my job when I was 38 yrs old because of the school closing, I decided to finish what I started a few years earlier! I once wrote this amazing outline of a book about my life. After finding it, I simply added more words and pictures. The book is called, “MY MIRACLE.” It is about my whole life, up to this point. It talks about roads we take, decisions we make, how you communicate with a loved one going through this change, friends, family, relationships, college, work, God, and SO MUCH MORE.
The book “My Miracle” can be seen on http://SharingMiracles.net. I built this website when my book became live, so people all over the world could join in on discussions about life experiences or miracles. SharingMiracles.net is a very cool website because it talks about life and the music is awesome… Please, if you get a chance check it out.
It also can be seen on other websites. I have heard from people all over the world about their lives and how much the book has helped them. They are going or have been through some major changes in their lives that involved and came from accidents. “My Miracle” has given HOPE, UNDERSTANDING, and ALLOWED THEM TO SEE THROUGH MY EYES…
I would LOVE to hear from you either on this post or my website. Please, let me know whats on your mind… Tell me about your life or a loved one going through or has been through a head injury or accident! WE ALL ARE HERE TO HELP EACH OTHER. I’ve been through it ALL. TALK TO YA SOON.
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Hi, and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am glad to see you decided to stop by and visit with me. As a traumatic brain injury survivor I struggle with a sense of inadequacy at times. At times I listen to messages that seem to challenge me for not being more than I am today. I am encouraged to be more, but for some reason I simply do not believe I can be more. Innuendos of shame in these messages trigger the notion that I am not enough, I don’t do enough and that I am unlovable. Unconsciously shame seeks to discredit my desire to succeed in life through minimizing my best efforts. Please read my post, Whose Shame are you Carrying?
Shame seeks to keep me distracted by a faulty notion so that I will not achieve my creative potential.
As a person with an invisible disability, I allowed the message of shame to bully me for many years. The shame bully controlled and manipulated my every move. Shame told me that my good was never good enough. Although I attempted to appease the bully, I seldom believed that my good was ever good enough. Consequently my self-esteem, self-worth and self-image were constantly undermined. In my struggle to prevent the bully from attacking my value as a person, I expended huge amounts of emotional, physical and spiritual resources.
Through my process of healing from the effects of shame I found that the voice of perfectionism – your good is never good enough — to be a cruel taskmaster. My ability to heal and grow emotionally, spiritually and physically was stymied by the demands of unrealistic expectations. Over time I recognized that my internal energy was being diverted away from developing my creative capacity in order to avoid being attacked by the bully. Through recognizing how shame was draining my life I was motivated to look for solutions. These solutions enabled me to slowly heal on a spiritual, emotional and physical level.
In my experience, I had to begin healing from the affects of shame before I could hope to live life on life’s terms. As I mentioned above, I still am susceptible to the message that shame wants to exploit. The good news is that I no longer need to be held hostage by the bully. I no longer need to internalize the lie that I am not enough. Through accepting that my circumstances are not meant to keep me down, I am encouraged to look for solutions. Although shame may want to bully me I no longer need to pay attention to its taunts. I am released from the grasp of the bully through learning to be empowered through my circumstances, experiences and opportunities.
Guilt is different than shame. If you made a mistake you can make an amends and thus resolve guilt. Shame on the other hand is a being wound which leads the person to believe that they just don’t make mistakes, but that they are a mistake. The tendency to over achieve and develop a sense of grandiosity or to under achieve and develop a sense of helplessness is often a response observed in people who have been bullied by shame. Being bullied by shame can lead to a learned helplessness, which in turn undermines the individual’s potential to pursue their destiny.
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“Show me the path where I should walk O’Lord, point out the right road for me to follow. Lead me by your truth and teach me, for you are the God who saves me. All day long I put my hope in you.” Psalm 25:4-5
Do you take the time to look out your window? and what do you often see? Imagine its beauty that God has given us, another day of richness in our lives to see. Do you sometimes question where you are in your life today? Where you are going? To be honest, I never knew where I was going in my life while I was living in Los Angeles,Ca. However, I can tell you I lived in destitute; trying to be a prize fighter in order to get out of the mess I was in.
During those times of experiencing pain, confusion and stressed out in the big city. I was living in buildings during the 1992 Rodney King riot which was eighteen years ago remembering the looting, arson and the smell of violence and destruction in the air that was getting nearby the place of business that I was living and training in as a martial artist. I was sleeping on floors during the 1994 OJ Simpson chase watching the helicopters go by over head in search of their suspect, hearing of the sirens. “you guys remember that?” I was not far away from the Interstate 405 in Los Angeles, Calif. All we could do is watch everything on television.
To let you know, I’ve struggled through rejection and I know we all have been through it. In 1995 this was the year I crossed trained from martial arts to boxing, I’ve lived in my vehicle until it was towed away, I’ve tried to understand my life’s situation and couldn’t. To actually appreciate life, we’ve got to appreciate death and we all know that death and destruction exist in this world. I’ve worked as a mortician aid “undertaker” placing toe tags and zipping up body bags each day and being on call twenty-four hours a day takes alot out of you. I’ve seen death in many fashion and creep along in gang territory. As a mortician we are sometimes struck with positive and negative spirit, knowing the body does not move, it’s without pulse of life. Whatever that person was he or she was, is no longer there. They are not their bodies when they pass on. So, do we know what life is yet? Do we understand life? Today I can say I am bless to be alive and life gave me good and bad experiences and some I am ashamed of, but thats okay! The more I love myself, the more I love others.